Practicing Witchcraft with Your Partner

As a practicing Witch, having a partner that isn’t a follower of the craft can sometimes make you feel they aren’t a part of a large aspect of your life. But don’t fret! If you have a non-practicing partner, there are still ways to include them in your practice, so that your bond is strengthened and your connection grows. Hopefully your partner supports your faith and Craft, even if they don’t believe themselves. That will make including them in your practice even easier.

There are a number of ways you can bring your partner into your practice, some that don’t require them to be an active participant at all. Some do require them to at least be open to the energies of the Craft and of magick in general.

Connecting with Nature

A key tenant of Wicca is our connection to and reverence for nature. We express this in many different ways. Our ways of connecting with nature can also be ways we practice our craft while including a non-practicing partner.

Creating a garden together is a great way to not only spend time together but also grow ingredients needed for spellwork and ritual. It gives you a long term project to work on together, includes your love and connection in the growing of herbs, flowers and spices you will use in your spellwork, and intimately connects you with nature.

Taking outdoor walks to connect with nature also gives you time to connect to each other, talking and holding hands as you stroll. This can be done at a park, in your neighborhood, at a public garden - anywhere you can connect to nature and be together.

Picnics are another wonderful way to both connect to nature and spend time together. Your partner can read or nap while you perform any rituals or meditations you want to do, and you have the connection of sharing a meal together. Picnics don’t have to be a big production, either. A simple snack in the backyard is a great way to connect with nature and your partner when a trip to a park or garden isn’t possible.

Kitchen Witchery

If either of you enjoys baking or cooking, bringing magick and your practice into mealtime is another way to practice with your partner without requiring them to be an active practitioner. Though kitchen magick is much more than using magickal ingredients as you follow a recipe, the act of cooking or baking together imbues what you make with the love and connection you and your partner share.

Your partner can assist you in the kitchen as you make a drink, snack, or meal that involves the craft in a few different ways. They can help you add in the ingredients. (Whether you have them add in the magickal or non-magickal ingredients is your call. If they are skeptical of the Craft, you don’t want them to affect the energies of the magickal ingredients.) They can read off the instructions for you.

If they are the type that can't even boil water without melting the pot, having them in the kitchen would be more stressful than helpful, sharing the meal you make is a way to share your practice and connect with your partner. Whether it is an entire meal crafted with intention and magick or simply an afternoon treat, sharing whatever you've made strengthens your bond. Herbal remedies if your partner is feeling ill is another way to bring kitchen magick into your relationship.

Kitchen witchery is an especially great practice when preparing a sabbat feast. Having your partner help prepare and then enjoy the elements of the feast allows them to participate without practicing.

Crafting

There are many ways to bring handmade items into the craft. Wreaths to bless with a protective spell and place on your front door. Spell candles imbued with a blessing. Decorations for the home and altar that correspond to the season and the sabbat. All of these

are ways to spend time with your partner while also accomplishing a part of your practice.

Bless the components of the craft before you and your partner start working. Dedicate time to what you are doing. Light candles that correspond to the blessing you will place on the object you are making. Listen to music or put on a movie you both enjoy. Set the mood for comfort and time together.

Spell candles are a great item to craft together, especially if it is for a blessing related to your relationship. Not only will you imbue the candle with the magickal blessing, your love and connection will be imbued in it as well. That is its own kind of magick, and will be ignited each time the candle is lit.

Though your partner might not believe in the magickal properties of whatever you craft, the object still holds power. They will be reminded of the time you spent together to make the object, and it becomes a symbol of your connection and relationship. The act of making something together creates a bond and connection, whether your partner practices Witchcraft or not.

Honing Your Craft

If your partner is open to the energies of Witchcraft and the idea of magick, having them assist you as you hone your craft is a great way to bring them into your practice. It is vital that they are open to it though - a closed, skeptical mind will impact whatever you are doing.

If you are learning tarot, do readings for your partner to assist you in learning the cards, different spreads, and the ways you can interpret what is shown. This is one aspect that really requires that they are open to magickal energies - the readings will be tainted if they aren’t.

Have them participate in any offerings you make to the gods, goddesses, and magickal creatures, especially before sabbat feasts. Their comfort level is important here, so don’t have them do anything that they aren’t fully on board with.